My needs come first

Males in my family have every right to expect their needs fulfilled. That the way we were brought up, I 22 the youngest of 5 and the third boy. I was doing very well in my studies and at college. But failing badly in relationships, meaning I didn't date, too nervous around self-confident women. Expected to marry before turning 25 wasn't looking possible, so my grandmothers decided to find me a wife not a girlfriend a wife. Using their contacts they search for the right wife for me. Which they found in a friend's niece 20, a shy timid girl who my grandmothers viewed as perfect for me. So, I was steamrolled into marriage, pushed both by my grandparents and parents. In a way it suited me, I was a failure when it came to dating and so being matched to a woman was about the only way I would ever marry. After a brief courtship (8weeks) we married, we would've been married earlier but it had to be arranged first a full family event. Once married we were alone for the first time actually, after an awkward start we had sex and as we got to know each other better our sex lives improved. I actually liked my wife quite a lot and was very comfortable being with her and she was likewise. She quickly got pregnant and the family was satisfied, as we lived together a strong bond developed between us. After college I started work for the family business and found I could use my grandmothers and my wife's grandmothers for our benefit. The family business didn't believe in holidays for family till Christmas and only for the Christmas New Year period. Our grandparents were wondering when we would have our second child it was almost 3years since our first had arrived. When asked I said No time to consider that as I was very busy with my work. Being the youngest everything that could be, was lumped onto me. My father's mother investigated seeing everything being dropped on my lap as they say. She talked to the others, and I was given a 4week break. Everybody thinks the men run the families, but it's the women who really do, behind the scenes they make their moves and the men do as they're told. As result I got my wife pregnant again, I now knew how to get what I wanted and have used it sparingly. Don't want the grandmother realizing they are being used or I would regret it quickly.